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Is Love a Fancy or a Feeling? Happy Valentine’s Day

Today is Valentine’s Day and, on the surface, it may look like I have a lot less love in my life this year than I have in the past. I guess it depends on how you look at things though. In so many ways, I am more hopeful than I have ever been—good things are in my future, I can just feel it. I’ve been thinking a lot about love, naturally, wondering if love is a fancy or a feeling? I think it is both. What about you?

Sometimes, when so much negativity, debt, stress and all that other bad stuff gets in my life, it’s easy to get in a bad place, mentally. Practicality and ‘should’ gets in the way of dreaming, doing what I want to do and thinking positively about future possibilities.

I was listening to The Band Perry song “If I Die Young,” thinking about how I used to view the world years ago. I was much more romantic, dreamy and hopeful. In the video for the song, Kimberly (the lead singer), is put in to a canoe by her brothers. The  imagined scene, many times depicted, is based on the Tennyson poem The Lady of Shalott.

Is love a fancy or a feeling

One of my favourite artists, John William Waterhouse created several paintings with the Lady of Shalott depicted:

William Waterhouse Lady of Shalott

The Lady of Shalott (1888) by John William Waterhouse

More of everything

I am not one to stop at small goals or dreams — when I dream, I dream big. This year, I’m working on adding more of everything to my life. Well, more of everything positive. Sadness and disappointment was the theme for last year. I have always talked, abstractly, about dreams for the future. There were always so many things in the way of achieving those dreams, though. I was in university and student-poor for longer than I’d like to think about, then moved to Calgary and back again (which cost me a lot of money and many important relationships), but I’m in Vancouver, where I think I belong, again.

Lady of Shallot Love a fancy or a feeling Valentine's Day post

Anne of Green Gables movie screen grab


Is love a fancy or a feeling? No.
It is immortal as immaculate Truth,
‘Tis not a blossom shed as soon as youth,
Drops from the stem of life—for it will grow,
In barren regions, where no waters flow,
Nor rays of promise cheats the pensive gloom.
A darkling fire, faint hovering o’er a tomb,
That but itself and darkness nought doth show,
It is my love’s being yet it cannot die,
Nor will it change, though all be changed beside;
Though fairest beauty be no longer fair,
Though vows be false, and faith itself deny,
Though sharp enjoyment be a suicide,
And hope a spectre in a ruin bare.

Sonnet VII by Hartley Coleridge

When it comes to love, are you practical or romantic? Or, perhaps, a bit of both?

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